Letting Go 學習放手
Updated: Feb 19, 2019
Letting go and holding on to love
We’re starting to inch closer to the end of 2018, and if there’s one theme I’ve had to my year, it would be “Letting Go.” Every year that I’ve lived abroad -- as is the downside of expat living--I’ve had slews of goodbyes to say as people move back to their home countries or on to new adventures. This has been a particularly brutal year, as I look around and see the friends and students I consider like family ending their Taiwan time. And sadly, this week there have been even more.
“Letting Go” has been the theme of my year in the sense that my friends and I have had to physically pry ourselves apart from our piles of hugs as airport taxis put miles between us. But, this year (call it growing more experienced instead of growing more callous) I’ve felt more peaceful than ever with people moving on and the way my relationships have had to adjust. I’m by no means a master of the Buddhist principle of non attachment, but in some ways, the more I let go of people or things, the closer I feel to them. I’m better able to see people for who they are and what they feel they must do for themselves, rather than who I expect them to be or what they can do for me.
There are all sorts of quotes about letting go of those you love as a test to the relationship and to see if they will return to you. While it may be true in some circumstances, I see the measure of relationships as still being able to love people even when they are far away, even if they were to lose touch, even when things have changed. Our lives move us in so many different directions that it’s impossible to grasp on to many people too tightly or to hold them here by our sides forever. It doesn’t make it any less sad or scary to say goodbye, but maybe while letting go we can choose to still hold on ...to Love. We can cherish and celebrate the fact that something beautiful was breathed into existence. In any case, when things get tough, thank God for Skype!! :)
Keep moving! xx, Katie
眼看我們離 2018 的尾聲越來越近，若要為我的 2018 下一個主題，我會選「放手」。住在國外的每一年都要和很多朋友說再見（這是身為外籍人士的缺點），有些人搬回家鄉，有些人則是開啟他們的新旅程。今年對我而言特別困難，看著周遭的朋友們與學生們 ------- 我台灣的家人們 ------ 一個個為他們的台灣生活畫下句點，更難過的是，這一周有更多的家人要離開台灣。
( Anna Liang 譯 )